Writing to her, and being understood.
Independent guides to correspondence across languages: what to say in a first message, what translation tools get wrong, and how to move from letters to a call.
Start with the first messageWhy a site about writing
Most relationships across a language gap begin with text. The words are short, they are often translated by a machine, and the person who reads them has no tone of voice to go on. A good deal of what goes wrong is not about intentions. It is about a sentence that read warmly in one language and coldly in the other.
Dear Marina,
Your letter about the apple trees stayed with me all day. We have one old tree behind the house, and this year a frost took most of the blossom.
What goes into your family’s jam?
Every guide uses short sample messages like this one, set out as letters. They are invented for illustration and refer to no real person.
The guides
- How to write a first message
What to read before you write, how to build a short opening note, and side-by-side examples of weak and better messages.
- Translation tools and their limits
Where machine translation helps, where it quietly fails, and how to write English that translates well.
- Keeping the conversation alive
Pacing, topics, silences and time zones, and how to avoid turning a correspondence into an interview.
- Video calls: moving beyond text
How to propose, prepare and hold a first call, what it can confirm, and how to stay safe.
- Reading cultural cues in writing
Formality, names, punctuation and silences, read as cues and not as stereotypes.
- Frequently asked questions
Short answers, each pointing to the guide that goes further.
What this site is, and is not
This site publishes information only. It does not introduce members, does not list profiles of women and does not take payments for introductions. Read how the guides are written on the about page.